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Shri Raju, with reference to your post #30 and #31

Very nice and clear post, making true sense of what culture means and what exactly it is, that is unique to each community/religion/region.

Frankly speaking, I wonder how come some grown up adults fail to understand what is culture? As you have detailed in both of your posts, every culture has values of its own kind and fits in well with its own culture. Religious practices does not belong only to Brahmins or Hindus, Christians, Muslims, Jains, Sikhs, Buddhists etc..etc. In the name of God and Spirituality, different spiritual practices are followed as per one's religion and community's believe system, as much as one can follow, give up in due course of his/her life, alter or pick them up again.

Values are the core of the culture and forms the foundation to establish and sustain.

Yes, many people in India are changing and adopting western culture. But, there exists more or equal population that carries on with Indian culture's core values. Many are the changed folks who could make a come back to the same core values, to peacefully settle on the same foundation that holds the culture, sooner or later.

We should not confuse our culture with that of our matured grown up intellect and say that, I found darkness as nothing but the absence of light in home at 6pm and there is nothing to feel about it. It can be left as it is IF we could still comfortably move around without light. We Hindus never ever keep the lights off during Sandhya time and tell the same to our kids. This is our culture and it has its own value. We tell our daughters and sons to keep patience, adjust and mange to the level best to sustain marriage. We don't tell them to discard marriage if you have to compromise a bit and have to be submissive in any way. This is our culture and it has its own values. Like wise, there are many many aspects of our culture with its own beautiful and meaningful core values.

I have come across many stories from my friends and social circle about the impact of MNC's and BPO's, where a different sort of western culture is adopted to ensure girls and boys keep working in their organization. One of my friend's friend didn't allow his youngest sister, who is qualified with BE in Computer technology, to work in any such MNC's.

If we see the recent Tamil Movie - "Mayakkam Enna" of Dhanush, many of us would find disgusting to see how his romance takes place. He ends up loving and marrying a girl who was with one of his close friends, dating him and staying together in a hotel room. The director some how has shown decently by just focusing the camera towards one disturbed bed, among the two in the room, in which the girl and Dhanush's friend were staying. Dhanus notices that too. She says that, she was just dating with him due to the guys liking and request BUT she has fallen in love with Dhanush..LOL!!!! Her heart belongs to Dhanush and that is what is all about LOVE...LOL!!!! The story line justifies that, a girls heart felt liking towards her husband can enable her withstand any challenges and keep loving him, supporting him and assist him in all the ways and means to make him a successful man. So, folks, don't have backward thinking and narrow mindedness that everything should be exclusive to you. Hope that the girls heart is exclusive to you that can give true meaning to your life.


Many folks in our society may say that I am a male chauvinist. That's why, I can't tolerate such practices in the society.

A Girl AND a BOY can try if she/he could like and love a guy/girl. She/he may like and love him/her and decide to marry or just get away from him/her. She/he need not to share bed with him/her when she/he knows that she/he still has not fallen in Love. Even if she/he falls in Love, she/he can well offer her/his extended physical love to him/her after marrying him/her. That is what a True Love is. True Lovers doesn't jump on bed together to exchange their extended physical love, before marriage, as per our culture.

After seeing such movies, girls and boys may be enlightened that, that is what is LOVE and anything goes in the name of LOVE.

To such people, I would only like to say that, don't degrade the word LOVE. Just say "partner" that need not to carry the sense of LOVE.

I am sure this is not our culture. But, I know that many of our people are changing. And I can well realize as how the western culture is influencing Indian culture. But, I am sure that many of our people still stick to our culture and would for sure sustain our culture.