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Dear Renuka,

I don't believe in back up evidences supported by scriptures in my attempt to live my human life, along with fellow humans, in relationships to the fullest, with my best possible right sense, understanding and acceptance - to achieve to satisfy the self and also to lose to achieve my purest supreme self.

Every one have their way of living. Either by realizations about the life and human relationships on one's own OR by only following and adhering to scriptured quotes (that may be with complete understanding or half backed understanding of in which context and for what purpose such things were quoted)

I share here only my views. Neither to impose on others nor to claim that my views are perfect. And this would continue as long as I feel like posting my views in this Forum.

So, you need not to strain yourself to alarm me to wait...

Dear Ravi,

So in that case why should we lament if culture is not maintained abroad or anywhere in this world if scriptures need not be our back up in life and each is free to live the way they want.

So that means Paal and Phalum is more important than scriptures!!LOL
Am I right??

Dear Renuka,

NO!!!! You are not right..

Go through the same highlighted lines in my post above, that you have highlighted, to see what I am conveying..Give stress to the underlined part of it.

My observations are pertaining to human relationship in human life across the Globe. Not restricted to any specific culture. You can find this same line in my previous post, addressed to Shri Naina_Marbus.

I said, to understand human psychology, value of relationships, and differences of personality, I don't relay on scriptured quotes and say that, we humans are not great in our love too, coz that only amounts to the satisfaction of the Self and all that involved in it only amounts to satisfying Supreme Self.

I, then, elaborated as on what grounds our honest love and care contradicts the "need of the self", in 4 different relationships and circumstances, having accepted the other completely. And how collectively people in relationship achieve completeness of self composition, out of love, gratitude and respect, having completely accepted each other.

That is, a true acceptance with true love makes you lose some thing or other BUT without any regrets and enables you to sustain and cherish the relationship. That is the beauty of human relationship where no humans are 100 percent perfect and 100 percent complete/composed/skilled/matured.

If human relationships (A Guy - A girl as true loves, husband-wife; parents-children etc.etc.) revolves around "Only the self to be satisfied", I bet, no one can ever have the possibilities and the desire to have relationships.

That's the reality of good human relationships, that forms, grows and sustains.

I believe, many of us tend to relate these most valuable scriptural quests irrelevantly with our basic human life and relationships. May be due to self assertion to find it relevant having self realized correct understanding OR due to half baked understanding.


We should not mix the spiritual philosophies for soul's elevation with that of human philosophies and psychologies that enables living a good human life of relationships.




It go nothing to contradict with any culture.


1) Our culture does not prohibit us from having friendship with any humans on this Earth, belonging to other faith and culture.

2) Our culture does not profess to reject individuals who are not 100 per cent perfect. No culture has this system, for the fact that, no one is 100 per cent perfect.

3) Our culture/customs/traditions makes our relationship meaningful, enjoyable and valuable and makes us to realize that - Humans are not perfect, people differ, acceptance and commitments are the essence of relationship, adjustments/compromises/sacrifices and bondage helps each other to be complete, having completely accepted each other with each others incompleteness. They drive us towards living a committed life, accepting the differences.

So, there is nothing in my statement that indicates rejection of our most valuable and cherish able culture and tradition.

Referring to certain Spiritual philosophies/concepts that are meant for liberation of the souls should be restricted only to the same purpose and not to understand how a valuable and meaningful Human Relationship can be established with love and respect to each differing individual.

We still lament if culture is not maintained abroad or even in home land BECAUSE we want these cultures/traditions/customs of our own styles to continue to exists so that the folks of our community continue to share the essence of these among themselves with sense of love and respect to our culture, fellow humans and human relationships.



Paalum Pazhamum is more important than scriptures??? LOL!!! What a irrelevant cross questioning dear Renuka!!!

Paalum Pazhamum is a cultural/traditional practice that got its own meaning and significance. I don't know if this custom has its reference in Vedic scriptures or not.

Whether cultural/traditional practices have scriptural references or not, this customs/traditions and scriptures does not makes any of them Superior or Inferior to each other.