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**Slonopotam845** · 05-05-2012, 08:04 AM

Dear Ravi,

You wrote:

Are yaar..what is the relevance to the question ozone asked you?
He was asking you about a smoker and a person doing Homa.
Dear Ravi I hope you are not trying to hint that I should disclose this to my friends wife.
You see these are my reasons why I dont disclose;

1)First i dont want to be an Ethappan and betray my friend when he trusted me and told me.

2)Secondly most affairs do not mean anything to most people and no one actually intends to breaks up their homes for it.
Most people want to have the best of both worlds.So let my friend have his vegan cake and eat it both(he is pure veg)

3)Last but not the least its better not to say anything than to speak unpleasant truth.

You must have your reasons for not disclosing to your friends wife about his affairs..remember the muslim colleague you wrote about?

My dear Renuka, do you got a feeling that I was criticizing you for not disclosing things to your friend's wife??

If that's what you felt, I didn't say anything on those lines. My statements were just to the point as what you told about it. And I said, many of "us" may do the same or differ a bit. Here "us" includes me too. People who differ with "us" may do many other things to let the wives know, without getting themselves caught by their friends Or tell openly and cut off the friendship..etc..etc..etc..That's all.

My Ex Muslim colleague whom I was referring to is like your friends only. He is a gem of person. Very helping and have many fine qualities. As well he says, he loves his wife and respect her a lot.

I do have the friendship with him and I don't have to reveal such unpleasant thinks to his wife. Exactly for the same reasons you have listed out. Both husband and wife are living very happily without any disputes as well.

Dear Renuka, it has the relevance to Shri Ozone's question to me, about defining friends/friendship. I didn't realize that you would not like my reference to your friends that you have expressed before and shared with all of us here. I first explained him about the friendship between a smoker and a non smoker and then refered to your friend's case as well for a more clear example.

05-05-2012, 08:04 AM	#28
Slonopotam845 Join Date Jan 2006 Posts 5,251 Senior Member	Dear Ravi, You wrote: Are yaar..what is the relevance to the question ozone asked you? He was asking you about a smoker and a person doing Homa. Dear Ravi I hope you are not trying to hint that I should disclose this to my friends wife. You see these are my reasons why I dont disclose; 1)First i dont want to be an Ethappan and betray my friend when he trusted me and told me. 2)Secondly most affairs do not mean anything to most people and no one actually intends to breaks up their homes for it. Most people want to have the best of both worlds.So let my friend have his vegan cake and eat it both(he is pure veg) 3)Last but not the least its better not to say anything than to speak unpleasant truth. You must have your reasons for not disclosing to your friends wife about his affairs..remember the muslim colleague you wrote about? My dear Renuka, do you got a feeling that I was criticizing you for not disclosing things to your friend's wife?? If that's what you felt, I didn't say anything on those lines. My statements were just to the point as what you told about it. And I said, many of "us" may do the same or differ a bit. Here "us" includes me too. People who differ with "us" may do many other things to let the wives know, without getting themselves caught by their friends Or tell openly and cut off the friendship..etc..etc..etc..That's all. My Ex Muslim colleague whom I was referring to is like your friends only. He is a gem of person. Very helping and have many fine qualities. As well he says, he loves his wife and respect her a lot. I do have the friendship with him and I don't have to reveal such unpleasant thinks to his wife. Exactly for the same reasons you have listed out. Both husband and wife are living very happily without any disputes as well. Dear Renuka, it has the relevance to Shri Ozone's question to me, about defining friends/friendship. I didn't realize that you would not like my reference to your friends that you have expressed before and shared with all of us here. I first explained him about the friendship between a smoker and a non smoker and then refered to your friend's case as well for a more clear example.
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