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**tgs** · 07-30-2012, 07:33 PM

Sri. Prasad, Greetings.

Not all of our behaviours are learned by watching others. Personally, my behaviours are not learned behaviour. You may say I could be an isolated case; but there may be many such 'isolated cases too'. I know about myself very well; that's why I said if not most, none of the points match my behaviours. Our behaviour pattern is quite fluid. We keep changing our behaviours. Only few basic default qualities don't change. Such default qualities are in our gene.

let me give you two examples -- I lived with ridicule day in and day out; one day decided enough is enough! Shy? Man, I smashed in to everything I wanted. Do I look a person with shy? You may work it out!

Day in day out I was discouraged. If those wrds had any truth in them, I should have been starting my life as the helper boy working in a small shop; in fact there was a talk about sending me to one such a job ( after my getting high marks in school final. My maths marks were in 90s out of 100). Did i lose confidence? No sir! I shipped myself out to learn a trade! Here I am settled in Australia!

Sometimes words like OP are suggestive to youngsters. They kind of justify confused thoughts to already confused minds. Recently one of my nieces completed M.BA. She hasn't got a job offer yet. She was a bit down... came online to talk to me. She knows my attitude.. I just infused confidence. I didn't quote any words of wisdom.. just power pep talk like military with all the slangs.. she said she felt empowered... she won that round of interview on that day, still waiting for the next round.. hope she gets it!

Cheers!

Dear Raghy,

I somewhat agree with you.
Not all behaviors are learned by watching others.
But we can learn a lot by watching other peoples behavior.

When I was an intern in government hospital this is what I learnt from most of my consultants:

1)Never to be as arrogant as anyone of them.

2)Never to treat junior doctors badly like how senior consultants do.

3)Never to have fear to give suggestions for treatment no matter how junior we are.
I remember I was on call once as a junior intern and a patient who was put on Aspirin started to bleed.
I alerted the medical officer on call who in turn alerted the specialist on call.

And none of them had the guts to stop the aspirin cos it was the senior most consultant who had ordered the Aspirin and everyone was scared to off the Aspirin.

Don't ask me why they had no balls but each did not want to anger this consultant who was a tyrant and would yell at one who tried to change his treatment.

I gave a damn to anyone of them and stopped the Aspirin and ordered a CT scan brain for patient that night and it was an Intracranial bleed induced by Aspirin.

But sadly the patient died the next morning.

The next day the consultant was shocked to see the patient dead and the other doctors were telling me "how dare you stop the Aspirin very well knowing the consultant might not like it"

I was "ya..I know none of you guys have guts and see what happened finally?"

You see what I mean...each one wants to respect seniors to be in their good books..that's fine as long it does not cost anyone's life.

07-30-2012, 07:33 PM	#12
tgs Join Date Mar 2007 Age 48 Posts 5,125 Senior Member	Sri. Prasad, Greetings. Not all of our behaviours are learned by watching others. Personally, my behaviours are not learned behaviour. You may say I could be an isolated case; but there may be many such 'isolated cases too'. I know about myself very well; that's why I said if not most, none of the points match my behaviours. Our behaviour pattern is quite fluid. We keep changing our behaviours. Only few basic default qualities don't change. Such default qualities are in our gene. let me give you two examples -- I lived with ridicule day in and day out; one day decided enough is enough! Shy? Man, I smashed in to everything I wanted. Do I look a person with shy? You may work it out! Day in day out I was discouraged. If those wrds had any truth in them, I should have been starting my life as the helper boy working in a small shop; in fact there was a talk about sending me to one such a job ( after my getting high marks in school final. My maths marks were in 90s out of 100). Did i lose confidence? No sir! I shipped myself out to learn a trade! Here I am settled in Australia! Sometimes words like OP are suggestive to youngsters. They kind of justify confused thoughts to already confused minds. Recently one of my nieces completed M.BA. She hasn't got a job offer yet. She was a bit down... came online to talk to me. She knows my attitude.. I just infused confidence. I didn't quote any words of wisdom.. just power pep talk like military with all the slangs.. she said she felt empowered... she won that round of interview on that day, still waiting for the next round.. hope she gets it! Cheers! Dear Raghy, I somewhat agree with you. Not all behaviors are learned by watching others. But we can learn a lot by watching other peoples behavior. When I was an intern in government hospital this is what I learnt from most of my consultants: 1)Never to be as arrogant as anyone of them. 2)Never to treat junior doctors badly like how senior consultants do. 3)Never to have fear to give suggestions for treatment no matter how junior we are. I remember I was on call once as a junior intern and a patient who was put on Aspirin started to bleed. I alerted the medical officer on call who in turn alerted the specialist on call. And none of them had the guts to stop the aspirin cos it was the senior most consultant who had ordered the Aspirin and everyone was scared to off the Aspirin. Don't ask me why they had no balls but each did not want to anger this consultant who was a tyrant and would yell at one who tried to change his treatment. I gave a damn to anyone of them and stopped the Aspirin and ordered a CT scan brain for patient that night and it was an Intracranial bleed induced by Aspirin. But sadly the patient died the next morning. The next day the consultant was shocked to see the patient dead and the other doctors were telling me "how dare you stop the Aspirin very well knowing the consultant might not like it" I was "ya..I know none of you guys have guts and see what happened finally?" You see what I mean...each one wants to respect seniors to be in their good books..that's fine as long it does not cost anyone's life.
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