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**PhillipHer** · 05-12-2006, 07:06 AM

Well then comes the question ... whos EGO ?

Ego of mother-in-law vs daughter-in-law for ONE (mother wanting son to do things her way, and son's wife wanting somethingelse).

In the olden days, the women's role was completely to stay home, and take care of the family. Even if they did work, they did not have an attitude of I am INDEPENDENT and I should have a say in everything, as women of today might. So people, for the most part, got get on with family life as usual.

Today, both husbands and wives work, and they both have to balance family life and careers. So the wife feels she is an EQUAL to the husband. So, depending on the woman's personality, inappropriate/out-of-line actions by the extended family can lead to problems. The same problems may have existed before, but women were more dependant on men then, and were not vocal about these things.

Joint family has its advantages and disadvantages. Basically, if people learnt to respect others' boundaries (and yes, there should be boundaries), then they would work better.

05-12-2006, 07:06 AM	#29
PhillipHer Join Date Jun 2008 Age 58 Posts 4,481 Senior Member	Well then comes the question ... whos EGO ? Ego of mother-in-law vs daughter-in-law for ONE (mother wanting son to do things her way, and son's wife wanting somethingelse). In the olden days, the women's role was completely to stay home, and take care of the family. Even if they did work, they did not have an attitude of I am INDEPENDENT and I should have a say in everything, as women of today might. So people, for the most part, got get on with family life as usual. Today, both husbands and wives work, and they both have to balance family life and careers. So the wife feels she is an EQUAL to the husband. So, depending on the woman's personality, inappropriate/out-of-line actions by the extended family can lead to problems. The same problems may have existed before, but women were more dependant on men then, and were not vocal about these things. Joint family has its advantages and disadvantages. Basically, if people learnt to respect others' boundaries (and yes, there should be boundaries), then they would work better.
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