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**TorryJens** · 05-24-2006, 11:05 PM

A bitter truth indeed, BG!
Neways, I've been wondering abt this issue of increase in old age homes.....
In today's scenario, ppl. r said to hav better incomes comp'd w/ the previous generations........esp. now tat both husband & wife in most families happen to be in jobs w. high earnings.....(esp. in most cases of the sons who hav a high-paying job & marry girls in similar profession/range of income!)
How come in this context they r said to find it difficult to take care of the parents/in-law then? In the past it was possible w/ jus one earning member of the family!

A real pathetic situation !

Who is held responsible for this situation ! i would say both the hubby n wife and the parents too !

Mistakes that the Parents make :
=> Decision Making - they wanted a say in everything !
=> Adjustment - They dont want to change to the current situation
=> Feelings - This is really pathetic, neither of them can be held responsible ... What say ? if the mother's son is married, she feels she has lost his son to the girl ! that he is no more her son ... but somebody elses husband !

Mistakes sons make:

=> Importance - he, after marriage, thinks only his wife n his children are his family ... forgetting the ppl who brought him up !
=> Care - He works for 14 hrs a day, the rest of the time ... he has time only for his immediate family ... he says a HI to his papa,during his morning coffee and a hi to mom when she serves his bfast (for both him and his wife)
Till date they have taken care of the son, now tis the turn of the son to take care of the parents !

Both are held responsible !

05-24-2006, 11:05 PM	#36
TorryJens Join Date Nov 2008 Posts 4,494 Senior Member	A bitter truth indeed, BG! Neways, I've been wondering abt this issue of increase in old age homes..... In today's scenario, ppl. r said to hav better incomes comp'd w/ the previous generations........esp. now tat both husband & wife in most families happen to be in jobs w. high earnings.....(esp. in most cases of the sons who hav a high-paying job & marry girls in similar profession/range of income!) How come in this context they r said to find it difficult to take care of the parents/in-law then? In the past it was possible w/ jus one earning member of the family! A real pathetic situation ! Who is held responsible for this situation ! i would say both the hubby n wife and the parents too ! Mistakes that the Parents make : => Decision Making - they wanted a say in everything ! => Adjustment - They dont want to change to the current situation => Feelings - This is really pathetic, neither of them can be held responsible ... What say ? if the mother's son is married, she feels she has lost his son to the girl ! that he is no more her son ... but somebody elses husband ! Mistakes sons make: => Importance - he, after marriage, thinks only his wife n his children are his family ... forgetting the ppl who brought him up ! => Care - He works for 14 hrs a day, the rest of the time ... he has time only for his immediate family ... he says a HI to his papa,during his morning coffee and a hi to mom when she serves his bfast (for both him and his wife) Till date they have taken care of the son, now tis the turn of the son to take care of the parents ! Both are held responsible !
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