[Raj_Copi_Jin]

i was actually shocked when hearing relatives give such an abhorrent excuse to why guys refuse dowries...supposedly if family of groom's refuse dowry...(especially those who work/study abroad) it is only because the guy has a woman there, or has messed around and so the family is willing to accept anyone (desperate) enough to marry their son....how sick is that?

Shakti's post is very good except of course for :If possible try to settle for simple marriage, and a small party afterwards. NO WAY! :P