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My ego (my mind) had almost driven me insane in the past because I didn't have enough love in my life. Now I have a good wife that gives me a lot of love, but I'm finding love is not constant. I'm not constantly around her, and occasionally we have an argument.

hi PV

i concur with the sentiments of Joshu

sexual & filial love are based in instinctual drives, therefore they can never be constant because they are conditioned by moodiness

if you wish to take an interest in Buddhism, then it is important to take an interest in 'upgrading' to learning unconditional love

for example, in Buddhist training, you should aspire to never have an argument, given arguing is individual selfishness & anger

instead, you & your wife can have "discussions" about differences in opinion (rather than "arguements")

love takes many forms, such as gratitude. in buddhism, the word for gratitude is 'kattanukavetti', which means 'what others do for me; what i must do in return'

because we need each other, it is wisdom to recognise this reality & humble ourselves to this reality

there are may aspects to higher love but Buddha taught this begins with gratitude towards our benefactors

with metta

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