[Nashhlkq]

Can someone speak more on 'dependence'?

hello again, Yagr

as i mentioned previously, thoughts arise in dependence on an "element", that is, in dependence on the most basic underlying tendencies or instinctual drives of life

the Buddha said there are at least seven underlying tendencies, namely:

(1) The underlying tendency of sensual craving.

(2) The underlying tendency of resistance (anger).

(3) The underlying tendency of views.

(4) The underlying tendency of uncertainty.

(5) The underlying tendency of conceit.

(6) The underlying tendency of craving for becoming.

(7) The underlying tendency of ignorance.

Anusaya Sutta elsewhere, the Buddha described the most basic underlying instinct drive simply as "craving for existence"

A first beginning of the craving of existence cannot be conceived, (of which it can be said), 'Before that, there was no craving for existence and it came to be after that.'

AN 10.62 in your situation, thoughts arose from craving for existence and the associated resistance (anger) that arose when that existence was threatened

in brief, your wife's life & personal well-being was threatened & violated so thoughts arose from the instinct to defend your wife's life

the Buddha said:

129. All tremble at violence; all fear death. Putting oneself in the place of another, one should not kill nor cause another to kill.

130. All tremble at violence; life is dear to all. Putting oneself in the place of another, one should not kill nor cause another to kill.

Dhammapada