Dear Effie: You are more capable than you think! and you are right not to judge (meaning that you do not take The Lord's place in determining the state of their eternal soul) however, you still have your conscience, the Traditions of The Church, the light that God has given you and your mind! Judging a situation or the effects of an action in light of your Christian Conscience is not wrong! We do not condemn others, but we still have to judge so that we can follow the path of Truth in accordance with our conscience. The choices that we make, based on our own judgments is the "fear and trembling part" of our salvation. We know if something is right or wrong and we act accordingly. We must make a stand for Truth! This is done in Faith, Love and hope (and a lot of prayer!) 1 Cor 6:3 3 Know ye not that we shall judge angels? how much more things that pertain to this life? KJV InXC, Seraphim