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In California, same-sex marriage has recently been upheld by the State Supreme Court as being legal. However, the ruling does not go into effect until June 16th and I am sure it will be contested before that date by people who just can't grasp the idea that gays can love each other too.
Quite honestly, I could never understand why anyone would want to marry except for legal rights where children are concerned or when a partner is ill and medical decisions must be made, etc.. My view on marriage has changed recently though as I am soon to wed (although not legally) my thai girlfriend (i am also a woman) of 2 years. Even though we love each other and have been together for 2 years, we cannot legally be recognized as married, therefore, she cannot move to my country as my spouse. Heck, we can't even get her a tourist visa to visit. Funny how a man can go online and order up a bride w/o even meeting her and legally get married but I can't legally marry my girlfriend of 2 years whom I support financially (and her daughter). Yeah, now marriage matters to me. Unfortunately, even though it looks like California will soon recognize gay marriage, it does not transfer over to immigration laws as they are federal laws that over-ride state rulings. Ahh, discrimination is still alive and well in the world. Guess its nice to know there are some things you can always count on. Right.

hi.i read your message and not to sound corny,i feel for you.i will tell you of my situation..xxxx
that sounds so technical...anyways maybe its best if i just tell my story. i went to thailand on vacation to try to get over a disasterious marriage,with the only intention of having fun.while i was there i met a wonderful person,after many days of debauchery, and i fell so deeply in love with her that i want nothing else than to be with her for ever and am even considering giving up my profession here and moving to any other country that will permit me to be with her.let me explain. she is what they call in thailand a ladyboy. she is a complete transexual,fully operated,a beautiful woman.i am not a homosexuaul or homophobe,pardon the expression.she was open with me and i have no problem witth this.i love her as a person and nothing else matters.however,society and laws dont see things the same way.to me she is my love,my life,my soul mate that i have been searching for all my life.i am supporting her financially and we talk incessantly ever day...4 to 5 hours a day.my heart really hurts being away from her.i am a wealthy professional,well respected in my community,no criminal record,i provided all the possible guarantees necesary,but a visa was still refused.i understand what you are feeling.it is not fare.i want you to know that you are not alone in this.hopefullythe new laws will be applied justly because even though we are married,they will not permit her to change her name as my wife and therefore she cannot apply again for a visa because they refuse to acknowledge her gender or the legitamise of our marriade,in thailand even if it is not illegal it is not recognized as legit.semantics but cruel.if our marriage is not recognized in thailand then i can not use it as a reason to have her visa granted in canada.if she does not get her visa she cannot legitimize her marital status.no marital status no recognition in thailan€d and hence no right to a visa from canada,etc etc etc.i bam however trying to go via europe since i also have eu citizenship.but the whole orocess sucks when you consider how easily terrorists can enter our countries.good luck and dont give up