Really though most disturbing of all is the fact that a new member would come into our "house" with disrespectful comments on parts of everyday life in many areas of Thailand, and try to to stir up things with a question of whether Thai people are rascist. Some woud call it rascist to say that so-and-so's girlfriend has no self-respect because they have no indoor plumbing, they sleep on the floor calling it dirty, and saying that the neighbors coming over on the new boyfriends arrival is their way of begging for a few shots of whiskey. All because the boyfriend is more accustomed to the city life in Bangkok? Then to top it all off saying that you feel they are out to cheat you and that you do not trust them?!! I think your best bet (if learning about the culture is not something you can do) is to head over to California and find yoursef an aspiring actress to date. You are obviously off to about the worst start one could imagine if you have already lost trust, so it is probably best to cut your losses early in the game and find something more suited to your taste and lifestyle prefrences? Before anyone questions why I say this, perhaps you would better understand if you were to read the other post.