[Casyimipist]

Trangam I really see what Seeker is saying about the loser theory. Actually what you said lies very closely to what Seeker is implying. Quite simply there is a very large number of men who view some other cultures as the 'innocent native' as you put it. Also lying within the same concept is the 'ideal sub-serviant, quiet, heart full of nothing but respect and admiration for the man in her life' idea.

So really your two opinions are very related.

The way sociologists sort the love process out is quite simply, attraction first, infatuation next, then ending in love. In most cases it is only possible to fall in love with someone that you are first attracted to. Worked that way for most people I know personally as well.

Unfortunately this being the way humans work and think, also leads to much heartbreak and failed relationships. People seeking the ideal look as well as personality, of course is not good, but the look is always the start of a relationship. How many of you have said well I kinda thought that he or she was ugly, but I have grown to love them?

Just doesn't happen.