[Knillagrarp]

When a group finds itself surrounded by people who are different, they tend to cling together even closer. The distinctions between the in-group and out-group are made more salient. It is a natural protective mechanism to try to assert the superiority of one's in-group when feeling threatened. My wife works at a local Thai restaurant, the manager is Issan, but is now a US citizen. All of the other employees are Thai, either Bangkok or Chiang Mai, most on student visas. My wife is the chef, and nobody seems to treat her badly for being Issan. I tend to stay on the outside of the circle. For me, the restaurant is a Thai place. I think it best to not try to crash the social system. When I am invited for a meal or a drink, I graciously accept and offer thanks. I also make sure never to overstay my welcome. I realize they are on guard when I am present, trying not to say things that might offend, etc.