[Caursedus]

Would you have been able to live with her in the Thai village peacefully with out marrying her, I think not, so you had to pay the Sin Sod to get married and to live in the village peacefully, not a choice freely made by you, but a choice forced upon you, by the Thai in-laws rigid social structure, that has not even considered your culture by being a little flexible, by meeting your culture half way. I believe most Thai families would be a little more flexible than yours if they were marrying into another culture, and consider your cultural back ground. . May be if you don't have any parents to support, you could have given the money to one of your poorer relatives on your side, put it towards your old age or even better given it to a charity that assists malnourished and diseased children in Africa.
By the way, I impersonated a farang battler, when I met my Thai girlfriend, and when she thought I was impoverished she did not want to know me, so my test got rid of my woman and I discovered her true colours
By the way I have given more than 480,000 baht to charities in my life time, my Thai girlfriend got very little in financial incentive from me, which was a test to see if she wanted me for money or not. The problem is you flaunted your wealth and she has been spoilt, so you will never know if she wants you for your money or for your self.
I believe she loves you, but you never know once you start supporting a woman financially.