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**DownloadMan** · 09-21-2012, 09:42 PM

With all due respect, I disagree. People are an amalgam of who they are genetically and how they deal with the rules culture puts upon them.

My friend is conflicted. In her romantic relationships she wants an American to treat her like a Thai guy is expected to his girlfriend/wife historically but she wants all the freedom that American women have and she wants to be equal to her boyfriend in all the ways American women feel they should be equal.

I know this is a little vague. Am I making sense?"""

For the first thing, You posted nothing in your Bio, so we do not know your gender, your age or your location.. so we have nothing to base your reasoning or questions on,,

I am a Farang, I am married to a Thai woman, We are happy together, there is no difference in how we treat each other based on any geographical customs.
We are all human beings and as such we each have a mind that directs our actions towards others, It has nothing to do with customs.
Thai men do not treat a woman any different than an American, some say one thing and do another, happens in all places, only from what my wife says, it is more so here than would be done by a Farang, say sweet things and then go behind and do different, say you do not drink and chase women, then go and do those very things.
We have both Thai couples and Farang and Thai couples in our group of friends, and the men in both groups are equal in their actions to their mates, some cheat and drink and some do not,,has no bearings on their bloodlines.
There is no genetic difference that states how a man is going to treat his mate after or before marriage.
Your friend sounds like a spoiled little kid that needs to grow up, wake up and smell the coffee..It is her that is making herself unhappy, has nothing to do with customs.
Now if you have something specific to base your opinions on, I would like to hear it other than that, I think you are just looking for a cop out to side with your friend and make her right and everyone else wrong thru your conceptions of customs.

09-21-2012, 09:42 PM	#11
DownloadMan Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 633 Senior Member	With all due respect, I disagree. People are an amalgam of who they are genetically and how they deal with the rules culture puts upon them. My friend is conflicted. In her romantic relationships she wants an American to treat her like a Thai guy is expected to his girlfriend/wife historically but she wants all the freedom that American women have and she wants to be equal to her boyfriend in all the ways American women feel they should be equal. I know this is a little vague. Am I making sense?""" For the first thing, You posted nothing in your Bio, so we do not know your gender, your age or your location.. so we have nothing to base your reasoning or questions on,, I am a Farang, I am married to a Thai woman, We are happy together, there is no difference in how we treat each other based on any geographical customs. We are all human beings and as such we each have a mind that directs our actions towards others, It has nothing to do with customs. Thai men do not treat a woman any different than an American, some say one thing and do another, happens in all places, only from what my wife says, it is more so here than would be done by a Farang, say sweet things and then go behind and do different, say you do not drink and chase women, then go and do those very things. We have both Thai couples and Farang and Thai couples in our group of friends, and the men in both groups are equal in their actions to their mates, some cheat and drink and some do not,,has no bearings on their bloodlines. There is no genetic difference that states how a man is going to treat his mate after or before marriage. Your friend sounds like a spoiled little kid that needs to grow up, wake up and smell the coffee..It is her that is making herself unhappy, has nothing to do with customs. Now if you have something specific to base your opinions on, I would like to hear it other than that, I think you are just looking for a cop out to side with your friend and make her right and everyone else wrong thru your conceptions of customs.
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