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Quote[/b] (Makiy0 @ Oct. 21 2004,05:21)]
I will be PISSED/IRATE/FURIOUS/UPSET....(you get the picture Pissed to the point where I would just call off the trip. If he wants to do something like that, he better have an A* reason.

I agree not being familiar with the expected dating process she would be feeling like this. Even if she was a Thai girl raised in Thailand and courting the Thai way, jealousy would surely find her there as well.

Quote[/b] (Makiy0 @ Oct. 21 2004,05:21)]Blonde18, I classify her as being in Step 3. You may say that dating is serious business in Thailand.

I think it works in different stages depending on cultures, I do consider their relationship serious though.

Quote[/b] (Makiy0 @ Oct. 21 2004,05:21)]Why would anyone want to introduce/meet parents when they are not even serious about each other.

I think we need to take a step back and consider. Most people in Thailand do not date for entertainment. It as mentioned is very serious, to say this is my girlfriend many times the other person will immediately give you their address to mail the invitation. Girlfriend and Fiance are pretty undistinguishable in Thailand. Prior to that phase, there is not much 1 on 1 dating at all. Much dating is done wth chaperones or groups, and that is how you get to know your 'friend'. During the time you are friends yes meeting the parents would come naturally before you say girlfriend.

Quote[/b] (Makiy0 @ Oct. 21 2004,05:21)]Moreover, Blonde18 is coming all the way from a foreign land to meet his parents, I think this itself speaks volumes for their seriousness.

I think so too. I really think that his mother will know immediately what is going on, likely it would be accepted, but prior to it being a public admission give the space, do what is asked.

Quote[/b] (Makiy0 @ Oct. 21 2004,05:21)]Next, it is not just Thai culture or American culture or any culture for that matter. Claiming to be something while actually being something else amounts to LYING.

I agree here too and blame this on him. But consider I am American and I would be just furious if my son or daughter come home from overseas and said this is my fiance, if I had no idea he was involved with anybody. I would appreciate the respect of my morals being shown, at least until the two of them were ready to announce it. It is his fault, and she should tear into him for it. Especially if they have been together for two years. She should be very familiar with their voices from the telephone at least by now. You really need to talk to your boyfriend much the way Makiy0 said. He was/is wrong for doing this to his parents and you. The conversation should end before you get off the plane though, choice made before landing. But regarding his parents, do what you like Blonde18. Myself and Mango warned you what that will do to the relationship though. We are both married to a Thai woman, courting is more than what one bargains for, I just don't know how to be any clearer.

Makiy0 looking at your last paragraph you will make a fine lawyer... but a wife to dread. lol