I have learned the hard way that after dating many many losers and guys that were nothing but jerks and thinking that they were the only guys I could get that it is all how think that attracts what things to you. When I thought about going being able to attract losers that is all I got. When I finally decided to listen to my guides and start thinking positively and thinking I could attract a really wonderful man who will treat me like a queen is when I would attract that in my life. I met my husband over ten years ago and he is 9 years older than me. He is wonderful. It is all how you look at things.