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**oxinsnepe** · 04-28-2008, 02:13 PM

I have another urgent question--

I recently posted about my ex who left me after three years.

I had been living in a small, artistic and spiritual community where I had a lot of social support through my kind-hearted friends. But due to the abuse and trauma I was experiencing with my boyfriend there, I ended up moving.

One of the many things I thought my ex and I shared was a deep appreciation for spiritual ideals and pathways.

My ex cheated on me twice, perhaps even more, and this last time he totally cut me out of his life via an email. I haven't heard from him in a month, but the last thing he wrote to me explained that he was becoming recognised as a healer, and that he had met part of his soul group at an angel healing meeting. It stung to hear him praise the women there for having "amazing energy"--while he just a few days earlier called me up and told me I was a b****

He also told me that he was writing a book about higher consciousness, and that he was preparing a talk about soulmates at the local metaphysical library.

I sometimes hear from one of his friends that he is getting more well-known in the community, making all kinds of connections with people there.

I am feeling tremendous pain on several different levels.

One of the most painful things for me is that I lost so much of my social support because he was unable to tolerate my having friends, and also because I made the decision to move in order to get away from the abuse.

My life has become increasingly isolated, and I feel really scared and "gun-shy" when it comes to talking to people. My trust has been so shattered, and I feel afraid to go outside.

When I hear about how rich and busy his life is, I feel a stab of pain, feeling that he is rejoicing that I am gone from his life, and also feeling that he is somehow rewarded by the universe, despite inflicting so much pain on me.

Is there any sort of justice in the universe? I feel like he has escaped any remorse or reflection, and I don't know how to cope with the feelings of pain and loss that are tearing into my heart.

How can someone who is abusive get so many accolades? I feel like I am the only one who knows about who he is, and I have to carry this heavy burden in my life...while he goes about with no wounds, no repurcussions, just getting more fame, more praise.

So much of my soul feels damaged--I don't know what to do, how to deal with the pain, and how to understand why he is healed and I am not--

Can anyone help me understand?

04-28-2008, 02:13 PM	#4
oxinsnepe Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 489 Senior Member	Why Does Abusive Person Get Praise For Being Spiritual Healer? I have another urgent question-- I recently posted about my ex who left me after three years. I had been living in a small, artistic and spiritual community where I had a lot of social support through my kind-hearted friends. But due to the abuse and trauma I was experiencing with my boyfriend there, I ended up moving. One of the many things I thought my ex and I shared was a deep appreciation for spiritual ideals and pathways. My ex cheated on me twice, perhaps even more, and this last time he totally cut me out of his life via an email. I haven't heard from him in a month, but the last thing he wrote to me explained that he was becoming recognised as a healer, and that he had met part of his soul group at an angel healing meeting. It stung to hear him praise the women there for having "amazing energy"--while he just a few days earlier called me up and told me I was a b**** He also told me that he was writing a book about higher consciousness, and that he was preparing a talk about soulmates at the local metaphysical library. I sometimes hear from one of his friends that he is getting more well-known in the community, making all kinds of connections with people there. I am feeling tremendous pain on several different levels. One of the most painful things for me is that I lost so much of my social support because he was unable to tolerate my having friends, and also because I made the decision to move in order to get away from the abuse. My life has become increasingly isolated, and I feel really scared and "gun-shy" when it comes to talking to people. My trust has been so shattered, and I feel afraid to go outside. When I hear about how rich and busy his life is, I feel a stab of pain, feeling that he is rejoicing that I am gone from his life, and also feeling that he is somehow rewarded by the universe, despite inflicting so much pain on me. Is there any sort of justice in the universe? I feel like he has escaped any remorse or reflection, and I don't know how to cope with the feelings of pain and loss that are tearing into my heart. How can someone who is abusive get so many accolades? I feel like I am the only one who knows about who he is, and I have to carry this heavy burden in my life...while he goes about with no wounds, no repurcussions, just getting more fame, more praise. So much of my soul feels damaged--I don't know what to do, how to deal with the pain, and how to understand why he is healed and I am not-- Can anyone help me understand?
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