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**sbrpkkl** · 04-30-2008, 09:20 AM

Hi Rosesforlove,

I agree with Yinepu. Your ex sounds like he has some major (ego) control issues going on. I know it may not feel like it, but you are actually lucky that you have broken up with him. Abuse will destroy your soul (and your body) if you allow it.

The hardest part is letting go mentally and emotionally. He is not in your life physically, but he is still right there with you in your mind and heart. This is where you need to let go. I have had a similar experience myself, and I know how hard it is to detatch, but this is what you must do. I used affirmations, positive self-talk, reiki, focusing intention, meditation, cord cutting visualizations etc,etc, you name it, I tried it... but none of it seemed to help. About 2 weeks ago, I wrote and recorded for myself, a subliminal tape (hypnosis), and it seemed to work wonders. The key in this tape were the words "I am in charge of my life. I take control of my life. I refuse to give my personal power away." I also included suggestions that I accepted my boyfriend as being an expression of the divine and that I respected and accepted him as he is (warts and all). My boyfriend is a control freak, and I used to feel like his victim. I needed to rid myself of the victim mentality, and my tape worked really well here (along with all the other things I listed trying). It is alot of hard (mental) work, but it is worth every ounce of energy.

Try not to foucs on how hurt or cheated you feel. Every time you think about the pain, you will summon more of the same. Shift your focus. It is the same as exercizing muscles in the gym... you have to do the work to get the results.

I wish you all the best with this.

04-30-2008, 09:20 AM	#7
sbrpkkl Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 490 Senior Member	Hi Rosesforlove, I agree with Yinepu. Your ex sounds like he has some major (ego) control issues going on. I know it may not feel like it, but you are actually lucky that you have broken up with him. Abuse will destroy your soul (and your body) if you allow it. The hardest part is letting go mentally and emotionally. He is not in your life physically, but he is still right there with you in your mind and heart. This is where you need to let go. I have had a similar experience myself, and I know how hard it is to detatch, but this is what you must do. I used affirmations, positive self-talk, reiki, focusing intention, meditation, cord cutting visualizations etc,etc, you name it, I tried it... but none of it seemed to help. About 2 weeks ago, I wrote and recorded for myself, a subliminal tape (hypnosis), and it seemed to work wonders. The key in this tape were the words "I am in charge of my life. I take control of my life. I refuse to give my personal power away." I also included suggestions that I accepted my boyfriend as being an expression of the divine and that I respected and accepted him as he is (warts and all). My boyfriend is a control freak, and I used to feel like his victim. I needed to rid myself of the victim mentality, and my tape worked really well here (along with all the other things I listed trying). It is alot of hard (mental) work, but it is worth every ounce of energy. Try not to foucs on how hurt or cheated you feel. Every time you think about the pain, you will summon more of the same. Shift your focus. It is the same as exercizing muscles in the gym... you have to do the work to get the results. I wish you all the best with this.
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