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I'm sorry all of this happened to you It is a shame darkness like that exists in this world.

I work with teenagers who are "at-risk" meaning they had really crappy lives. They will manipulate and use anyone they consider to be kind. They see all people as out to get them because..well..the primary ones in their lives did get them. So they turned their heart to stone and bleed people for all they are worth and instantly target kind people. These issues run very deep and no amount of food, money, kindness, or love will ever change them because they can't recognize kindness. They see it as you are trying to manipulate them and they will always fight to keep the upper hand. So there is nothing you can do for them that comes from kindness. But it really bothers me when people take others in thinking that love and kindness will "cure" them when they put themselves in tremendous risk. These people cannot even recognize or conceive of love or kindness so they rob, abuse, etc them because they see them as weak and stupid (very frank but true).

What can you do to help them? Like pathseeker stated you have to set limits with them and tell them where to find the food, money, furniture, etc. You will notice that they will never get it the "right way". Their greatest need is to use people/drugs/alcohol. Telling them no teaches them that it is harder to use people than to get it in a more respectful way. It also keeps you protected which is way more important than anything else. It also models self-respect and that people can be kind but not exploited.

I know this sounds harsh but it is very very honest. They are only like this because they were horribly abused as children and taught that the world is eat or be eaten. They did not like being the prey so now they are the predator. If you really want to make a difference, child abuse prevention is the most effective way to combat this occurance. Unless something drastic happens in these peoples' lives they will always exploit the kindness of others.

To answer your question, they are drawn to you because they see innocence and naivety. They see you will give them anything and you do. You need to be aware of the warning signs that someone is out to exploit you and lifting your skirt at any point in a relationship is definitely one of them. Keep yourself safe and stay far far away from them as there is nothing you can do to help them.