[Vomazoono]

"Insecurity"

Many of us live in fear. We are afraid of the unknown. We all have our insecurities. Some question specific physical features in themselves. Some individuals question their intelligence. Some question their weight. Some question their personality. Some question their social behaviour. Some question their gender. Each person in the world has something they question. Each person has a weakness.

The reason many of us live in fear is because we refuse to get into situations that will confirm our fears and negative attitudes about ourself. For example, if you are overweight, you fear that at some event, that will come into play, and someone will confirm what you might be denying. If you stay at home, if you aren't social, you are safe.

The biggest misunderstanding though is that people think everyone is insecure about the same topics. That is totally false. Not everyone cares about being overweight. Think about this, people take pills to improve their sex life, pills to stop depression, with all kinds of bad side-effects (many guranteed to occur) I remember taking a pill for a very short time that had a chance of making me lose some hair. For me, that was huge. My hair is really important to me. All my life I have had positive comments about my hair. When I go to get a hair-cut the barbers always say what great hair I have and how thick it is. It really does make you feel good. But then you have people who purposley shave their head because they prefer that look. They find it a nuisance and maybe they just look better that way. So all this reminded me of a comment a friend made to me. I was talking about having to take the pill and my worry about the hairloss and he said "Well, you know loads of people take them because they would rather be bald than not be able to get sleep". He was absolutley right.

But that comment has some real power behind it. In today's society, we see an overweight person, and as a society, we assume that they look sad because of their weight. We jump to conclusions because we are programmed to believe that every persons sadness is do to some societal norm not being meant. But that isn't true. As a society we discuss diversity a lot because we do truly believe in it. We truly do like to see differences, afterall, variety is what makes the world exciting. But more to the point, our happiness is not dependent on other peoples thoughts, but only ours. If it bothers us, we are not happy. And even more to the point, we are all born happy, hopeful, non-judgemental about ourself and others, and it is when we decide not to control things that we can, that we get down on ourself. People use things that they can't control as the reason for their sadness, but that is never really the reason. True sadness comes from a lack of hope that was derived from years of non-action.