mutual respect, honesty, love and gratitude oh and don't forget to 4give your self if you find your self out of integrity. if you can not 4give your self there is no way in hell are you going to love your self and if you do not love your self you are not going to be able to love any one else.. maybe use or abuse take things for granted lie cheat steal rape pillage that sort of thing or possibly play the victim role when life gets over whelming.