the reason man understands time the way he does is because he travels in linear time in only one direction. time can be slow or speed up though, depending on the viewers perception if it. i always loved einstein's simple view of linear time and perception. it went something like this: a pretty girl sitting on your lap for an hour will seem like ten minutes, yet shovelling snow for ten minutes will seem like an hour. i won't get into non-linear multi-dimensional time... controlling is typically in the controllers best interests. mentoring is typically in the students best interests. this is not always true, of course, but for the sake of talking about helping people towards goodness and love, i would suggest this is one reality. reality is, of course, only reality to the person viewing it, therefore each person's reality is different. you can see it as you wish.