[Izzy]

let me put this very bluntly and remember that i am not trying to imply anything personal here. competition is one of the most fragmenting traits in our culture it create 99,9% losers. my assessment of personality traits as a psychotherapist over 19 years is that the notion that ,"you just have to win, no matter what", is exactly the trait i expect to uncover in the psychopathic, or sociopathic personality.

the need to win is a value in your mental map. that value is a consequence of your mental identity and/or perception of reason for living. all of these constructs are a consequence of your perception about what consciousness is all about. that being said, it could also be influenced by your testosterone levels.

to put it simply, the more you feel that you are connected to all things, the less competition you will need.

once upon a time there was this huge mound of sand in the desert. the mound was proud and very happy to be the biggest - and of course the best mound of sand around. that was before the storm that blew that great mound of sand almost to kingdom come. weeping softly in the aftermath of the disaster the now terribly reduced mound of sand could hear laughter and giggling in the near distance. curious about how such emotions could be present in such a time of disaster the "used to be big" mound asked, "how can you manage to have good feelings at a time like this"?

off in the distance an even smaller mound of sand quipped, "i am the desert"!