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let me just say as a clarity, i am not interested in "convincing" anyone of the useful or non usefulness of my mere ideas. i had written or conceptualized most of this post and the top post, 2 weeks ago and had dropped it. it did not seem to be useful. i got a dream day or so ago about how "i was late". so, to cover my bases, i decided to complete what was started and let universe cast me where it will.

the transmission fluid is love. the oil for your engine (will) is love. the clearer, the more balanced your internal self love pressure levels, the better, smoother and faster your shifting. others who have taken “shortcuts”, cannot compensate for this. you, with love, will not strip you gears, and be locked in only certain ones. (stripped gears are repairable with work and love.) if you love and respect (and forgive) yourself, you will naturally understand to love and respect (and forgive) others… therefore your gear shifts will be appropriate and full access to all gears allowed.

so what is the first question?

why are you doing this? is it to heal yourself? is it to put yourself in a better place to be of service or healing to someone else? good questions that raise the fluid levels to the proper pressure level.

next, what emotion are you stuck in: identify it…. clearly. if it is several, pick one emotion for each one particular aspect of a situation.

now, where do you want to go? sometimes, i have used a scale to determine where i want to go when i have tough, repeating, cyclical thoughts that keep reinforcing an emotional pattern that i need to break, usually pertaining to a particular problem. everyone has an idea of where emotions fall on a “scale”… pull up this internal understanding (or web search for “emotional scale” if you need help)

note: scales are linear (which i always had a bit of a problem with but it’s a place to start), whereas emotional landscapes are, i feel, more like territories. this is why, in my experience, it is possible to go from any gear to any gear as they all touch at a central point. (perhaps present). is time a line or a flat plane? or a full 3d landscape (expanding sphere)? i put forth emotions are the same way… however, it is useful to start with lines in the beginning.
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so, let’s pick something for examples’ sake. let’s say hate to boredom. they seem to be close on the line: an easy “shift”.

say one feels very hateful about a situation or person. what one can do is this… catch whatever thought is about to trigger another “hateful” wave…. now, this is important: what thought or question can you ask yourself about that exact thought that will make you bored about the thought instead of hateful?

example: hateful thought: “this place/ person is so confining, controlling!”
new bored thought “wow, this place/ person really has a need to show off… and it’s the same show everyday.”

that is the work
-you notice the thought that proceeds the emotion. log it.
-determine (ask yourself questions) what the thought would be if the emotion to come were different (say boredom). log that.
- when the old emotion thought comes up before or right as you start to feel hate, ask yourself your newly discovered questions that lead to thoughts that produce boredom and commit to it! you have just shifted gears!

you may have to do this several times but eventually you will be “stabilized” in boredom with that issue. then pick a new topic or stay with that one and choose a new emotion that has more usefulness to you now. the mind can get stuck shifting into certain gears on things and this is a nice gentle way of retraining it consciously.

well… this is long but mostly complete. a few other things i would have added… i will allow the good spirit to flow in any other pieces that may be useful as each needs. perhaps some of you others have additions or observations that may also be of use to all? do share! thank you for your presence,

peace and love

darlyne