[theatadug]

thank you honey....so are you. we bring our children what we have. i believe what we already have is what is needed for them. our time might shine to them while they are young or it might not shine on them till they are old....but the fabric is layed and they are born to us because we have what they need in this life.

i must say, mother hood has been the hardest thing in life for me. but also, it was and is the teacher of giving for me. i was selfish, i enjoyed myself so much, the fabric for my life layed the stitches in my quilt to teach me, selflessness. i still struggle sometimes, with patients or teaching understanding to them. but i learn from them just as they learn from me. there are many things i could do better. when i am having one of those moments of 'im not a good enough mom', i remind myself, that i could be a worse mom. this keeps me going in the forward direction so i dont regress into old habits of coping. one of the best things we can teach them is patients in learning. teach them that we will always repeat what we feel is right, not through harsh punishment, but reasoning of 'why' this way is better then that way.

i always hated hearing my mothers reasoning of 'i told you so' or 'because i said so'. if im going to tell my child they shouldnt do something, shouldnt i be able to give them a reason why, even if they dont understand it in that moment....one day, after i repeat again and again to stand behind my reasoning, it will impact them that i stood for what i believed to be a good reasoning. if we are inconsistent with them, they will become inconsistent with life and learning.

the hardest part is the multi tasking and staying consistent with a structured home even when we feel like there is no way we can do it all. i never thought when i was younger that i would love being a mom. in fact, i didnt want kids. life is full of surprises that i am today thankful for. i needed them just as much as they needed me, if not more so.

its great to hear from you!

my best to you and yours