[excholza]

could it be wrong for me to keep doing this? is this indirectly going against someones free will to keep trying to protect people from their own actions because i could in fact be slowing down their lessons???

hi melissa ... you have come to the correct conclusion on your own. yes, it is wrong because while it enables, it also slows down the process of learning the inevitable lesson.

i have been through this one lesson sooooooo many times now, and sometimes with the same people, over and over again, that i just need to smarten up, but it is soooo hard

sounds like this is one of your life lessons...maintaining healthy boundaries and loving yourself enough to refuse to continue to accept bad behavior. when you do firm up your boundaries and love yourself enough, you will find that you are not required to repeat the lesson anymore.

tough love in action is not easy, but is well worth the effort...for you and for your loved one.

lots of love, light and hugs coming your way ((((()))))
nancy