[rxnixoncom]

i've been a chef for over 25 years now and this issue has been strong for me throughout the experience. i have found that at times, to properly serve the whole, i have had to be incredibly self-serving. i am very good at what i do, and am well capable of seeing the "bigger picture" of how a restaurant runs efficiently. to make that a reality, i either have to convey the bigger picture to others in a way they grab the ball themselves, or simply tell them what they need to do to fulfill their part in the whole. and as always in any business, there are those who never get it and can barely do what they are told. then i might have to ride their butts or can them. at that point, i am effecting the outcome of a person's life, taking away their income, potentially increasing their difficulty. seemingly usurping their free will.

and yet, by that act, the rest of the crew and the restaurant itself returns to a smoother running. another evolving being moves into the opportunity of the space created. perhaps even the individual who was let go might come to say "yeah, i needed that, that was a good thing for me, i needed the change."

but it all serves the whole. and everyone who steps into a job, for whatever reason, is agreeing to be part of that whole, with its own funky and particular orderings.

so, telling my staff what to do and when to do it is self-serving in that it makes my job easier and i get it my way, but it also is what makes the gig run smooth and profitable for all. sts or sto?!

here's the kicker - you can't usurp anyone else's free will. no matter the subtlety or force displayed by one who would do such a thing, the other in the matter uses their free-will to either walk away, or to continue their current education.

be fair, reasonable, and firm, acting out of light and love as best possible, allowing all to know that what is being done is to serve the whole that all present in free-will have chosen to participate in.