[CowextetleSix]

great guidelines!!they are so truthful.
can you emphasize on
-do not help others unless they ask for it
-your truth is not their truth?

*do not help others unless they ask for it
well, as far as helping people goes, i find it helpful to divide it into two categories: helping and assisting. assisting is when you aid someone in a task that they are likely to accomplish on their own at the present time. helping is when you aid someone in a task that they are unlikely to accomplish on their own at the present time.
example of assisting:
a man who is handicapped has been trying to roll his chair up a curb for awhile and is having a difficult time doing so. if no one else is already doing so, i would of my own free will offer to assist him. this man is attempting to do this on his own and the direction that he is headed is relatively clear. examples like this can be seen everyday from the elderly trying to cross the street to children trying to reach something on a high shelf. even when assisting, one must still take caution not to assist where you are not needed.
example of helping:
lets say you notice what appears to be a homeless man on your way home from work. this man doesnt say anything, but looks at you as you walk by. being the kind natured person you are, you reach into your pocket, fish out some change and place it in his tin can. this is what i call helping, as the man's present situation places him as unlikely to generate money (he is just sitting on the sidewalk) without your intervention. this man is not trying to do this on his own and the direction that he is headed is relatively unclear. examples like this can also be seen everyday, but the heavier cases usually dont present themselves on a daily basis. if he didnt ask you for any help, he might throw the coins at your head while shouting "you think you're better than me!?" or "people like you ruined this great country.." (sorry, past exp). if he did ask you for help, instead of giving him money, it might be wiser to go buy him a decent meal, as he might use your change to score some cheap liquor, which would not necessarily be what you intended (i hope).

of course, these are two very general cases. when you start getting people close to you involved, like friends and family, it becomes a lot more complicated, or so it seems. i find that even then, if you remove all the extra circumstances and just look at the basics of it, it can usually be revealed as either you assisting or you helping.
this is just a guideline to help me out when things get heavy and i need to take a step back. if you have a better way of dealing with these types of situations, please share as i am always looking for ways to improve myself.

*your truth is not their truth
this was actually told to me during a state of deep meditation by my guidance. it took me a while to understand exactly what it meant, but once you do it's kinda obvious (i guess its always like that though...). anyway, what this refers to is not actually having different truths (there is only one truth just like there is only one love), but having different levels of truth. i think ra themselves even say that two beings are rarely or never at the same level of truth. what level of truth you have attained so far dicates pretty much everything in your life, from who you talk to and what you talk about to what you do and what you seek to do. me, you, and nearly everyone on this website have undoubtedly attained a particular level of truth in order for the things that we express here to make any type of sense or to be applicable in our daily lives. as your level of truth grows, you find yourself bending more and more toward the light (or the dark depending on which path you choose). this guideline was given to me at a time just after my "awakening" experience when things that were as clear as daylight to me were not even registering with anyone else around me. no matter what i said or did, they just could not catch what i said, no matter how plainly i said it or what i showed them. even if they did hear me, they had absolutely zero interest.
everyone is awakening. some people are doing it at an extremely slow pace, while others seem to know who they are on a pretty deep level already. everyone is on the same scale, just on different levels.

let me ask you something? i have issues with sharing my love but with setting my boundaries. i am either cold or very loving to the point others use me as a door mat. how do you love without letting others step all over you?

that can be a very tough thing sometimes. the way that i see it is that you have to remember that acting from a position of love and respecting free will also includes...you. you are a human just as everyone else with free will and love just as everyone else. remember that self-love is just as important as love of others. that's not self-love in the sts sense, but a call to remember that you cannot serve others if you dont have a strong basis of love for yourself. with that love of self comes respect for your free will. dont step on your own free will. you know what it feels like when you doing something unacceptable or past the line in the name of helping others. you will lose sto polarity if your actions are seen as encroaching on the love and respect that you have for yourself. i hope this makes some sense. if not, let me know. i'll try to explain from a different angle.

i appreciate all the feedback on this post so far. if anyone has any questions or opinions, i'd love to hear them.

be well,
kensanwa