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this is a harsh perspective, similar circumstances in my life have made me realize that everyone creates their own reality. the hardest lesson for me was that you cannot push someone up a ladder. you have the choice to participate in their reality and make it your own, or rise above it. it seems that i had guilt over not wanting to participate in what was unhappy/unhealthy in my world. i think i am getting over it now. i still communicate with my family on a regular basis and care very much. instead of getting sucked down by it i try to 'shine' and show them a way out. it is the free will clause, and the manifestation of their 'intent' that puts them where they are and they are the only ones that can change it.
do not let their expectations of you 'create' you. create yourself.
that is how/where i have achieved peace with the misfortunes of others.
i read somewhere, email for link, that the creation favors good by mirroring that which you intend first to the intender, then out to the universe. in this way the negative self destruct and the positive thrive. look around, there is truth in this concept. imo