[Hokimjers]

hello everyone! i would just like to hear everyone's view point on this topic because i have run into this dilemma a few times in my life and i would like to have a more well rounded idea of a healthy way to approach it, if it should happen again.

we have all heard that to "follow your bliss" or "follow your heart" is the secret to life. but what do you do when your heart is leading you away from your obligations and responsibilities? like if following your heart and dreams seem to be conflicting with your marriage or your career? it would seem selfish to go running off after your dreams and abandon your family. and the last thing i ever want to be is selfish. but, i believe, that people who feel trapped become miserable. and then the misery spreads.

take this poem for example:

don't ask so much what the world needs.
go out and do what makes you come alive,
because what the world needs most
are people who have come alive.
-howard thurman so what happens when life gets in the way of becoming alive?