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-be a silent example, as much as possible.....instead of preaching, let people ask you what your secret is, (if they see you allways happy they will want to know) or let them observe it for themselves...
-realate to others in every way possible, for example, if they are venting, give them examples of when you too felt that way, and when you felt the way the person they are venting about felt.....in a down to earth way....by not hiding your past or present flaws either, showing that we aren't all perfect either, but are happy inspite of it....
-look at the bright side allways
-find humour in any and every single thing you can (this is one of the best healers out there, and can really help people come out of their shells)
-instead of volutnteering, i show a side of myself or my life that is or has been where they are, (so we are more on the same level)and show/help them in a way they feel they are helping themselves, instead of in a way that they feel someone more fortunate at the moment is in any way "better" or "above" them but that in fact we are all equal, and mabey those going through some tough stuff, are because they choose to learn faster or see more clearly sooner than those they feel intimidated by, or "less" than....help them see no one is ever "less" than, and in every situation that is hurtful let them know, (without judging the offender) that we have all unintetionally been the one causing hurt, or pain because we didn't understand a situation fully etc....

i guess i am really saying the same things from different angles lol...

good thread idea, i love reading from different perspectives to help me along more too.