foosnik, i was raised by extremely abusive adopted parents and carried my anger around with me for many years. the way i got over it was by praying every day that i be able to forgive my adopted parents for the way they treated me. little by little the anger just disipated, and now i don't seem to have any left within me. so my prayers were answered. prayer is a very powerful tool for self-healing, and also for many other things. at least that is what i have found. it doesn't matter who or what you pray to, as long as you believe in it's power to help you. that is truly what matters.