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**mazabotman** · 02-21-2008, 06:23 AM

hello lynette,
i understand what you are experiencing and appreciate the thoughtful consideration you have shown in dealing with your add child. there is no way anyone that hasn't had your experience could possibly understand what you are going through. please don't feel guilty about using medications when they help the child to feel better about themselves. that is an important consideration which we also found was necessary in raising our little grandson. if the benefits outweigh the negatives, and from the tone of your post, they have brought considerable improvement, their use is certainly justified.
often times their nervous systems need time to grow and develop to cope with the almost unbearable stress of trying to deal with things that are beyond their present capabilities and a little medication can give them a "breather" and you a little reprieve. there is nothing wrong with that. in fact it would be unfair to both of you to deny "relief" when it is needed.
our little grandson came to live with us when his parents were divorced and by the time he was three, we recognized that there were problems in that he could not slow down his activities or focus in on anything so after a series of tests, he was diagnosed with add. his doctor started him on low dose sustained release ritalin which worked miracles for him. he was much happier with himself and throughout grade school was an exceptional student and placed in the academically gifted category.
when he started seventh grade he decided that he would like to try to get along without his ritalin. some of the kids had been calling him a "drug addict" which upset him. we agreed that he could take charge of himself and if he really wanted to stop the ritalin he would be allowed to do so. his school work began to decline and he was much more difficult to talk to and reason with. he barely made it through high school graduation and has struggled with control over his add for all these years. it just didn't go away when he became an adult. fortunatly he married a very patient and loving girl who seemed instinctively to understand how to deal with his situation. they have a good stable marriage of 15 years with three beautiful children. they are both devoted to providing the best life possible for their 3 kids and we are so proud of them. so there are happy outcomes from the rocky road of add.

02-21-2008, 06:23 AM	#4
mazabotman Join Date Nov 2005 Posts 487 Senior Member	hello lynette, i understand what you are experiencing and appreciate the thoughtful consideration you have shown in dealing with your add child. there is no way anyone that hasn't had your experience could possibly understand what you are going through. please don't feel guilty about using medications when they help the child to feel better about themselves. that is an important consideration which we also found was necessary in raising our little grandson. if the benefits outweigh the negatives, and from the tone of your post, they have brought considerable improvement, their use is certainly justified. often times their nervous systems need time to grow and develop to cope with the almost unbearable stress of trying to deal with things that are beyond their present capabilities and a little medication can give them a "breather" and you a little reprieve. there is nothing wrong with that. in fact it would be unfair to both of you to deny "relief" when it is needed. our little grandson came to live with us when his parents were divorced and by the time he was three, we recognized that there were problems in that he could not slow down his activities or focus in on anything so after a series of tests, he was diagnosed with add. his doctor started him on low dose sustained release ritalin which worked miracles for him. he was much happier with himself and throughout grade school was an exceptional student and placed in the academically gifted category. when he started seventh grade he decided that he would like to try to get along without his ritalin. some of the kids had been calling him a "drug addict" which upset him. we agreed that he could take charge of himself and if he really wanted to stop the ritalin he would be allowed to do so. his school work began to decline and he was much more difficult to talk to and reason with. he barely made it through high school graduation and has struggled with control over his add for all these years. it just didn't go away when he became an adult. fortunatly he married a very patient and loving girl who seemed instinctively to understand how to deal with his situation. they have a good stable marriage of 15 years with three beautiful children. they are both devoted to providing the best life possible for their 3 kids and we are so proud of them. so there are happy outcomes from the rocky road of add.
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