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dear lynette, and others,

there is no doubt that in your words you love your children with everything in you! they are blessed to have this love!
as far as stemming goes: from my own experience it's sometimes really hard to break the habit. brandon seems to pick up a stemming habit and then drop it, but some i just can't help him break. i've found from our own experince, is that in keeping him busy, he doesn't have a chance to do any stemming. i'm constantly at dollar stores or others trying to find activity books and crafts to keep him busy. the garbage man finally got our tv months back, cuz he would stand right in front of it and cross his eyes and laugh. (?) we have alot of computer games (like reader rabbit) that keep him busy also. and then you still get the whole 'cause and effect', and that he's still learning something. the only problem with all these activities being close up, i've come to learn that he has nearsightedness. (a whole 'nother topic, but thanks to dr. bates method of relearning to see, his sight is coming back)
even with danielle and her mind so full of so many thoughts and not being able to focus on one thing for long, and the "ants in her pants", i find i have to constantly try and give her things to do.
my heart goes out to you and your son. school can be a negative experience at times. (remembering my own) if this helps at all, i might suggest that loving him, which is what your definitely doing, and building him up with that love. that when he walks out that door, he has a confidence that will get him through. and that it doesn't matter what people think or say. that's their choice. and he's probably old enough to know to, that he has a great purpose here on earth, and that being a light in this world is a great honour! and that by a simple smile he can change someone's day from negative to positive! brandon says hi to everyone! once said "hi" to a man. the man looked at him, and said "thankyou so much for saying hi to me!" i think i forget how lonely the world is at times, and feel that they have nothing to live for. i only know from my own experience. danielle especially needs what i call "stepping stones". each time i praise her or build her up with words of encouragement, i'm giving her a stepping stone, which seems to allow her to take a step forward!
i'm sure you sit by their beds some nights praying for a miracle! now that i'm learning all these new truths, i want to believe with all my heart, that by my touch i could heal dee, and brandon. one day i had my hand on brandon's head, and i closed my eyes, and thought of love, and healing! after a moment, he looked at me strange, and said "what are you doing?" his face was so puzzled that i couldn't help but laugh! but am still aiming for that goal! to believe with everything in me, with not a single doubt! i hope this helps in any way!
may our infinite creator bless you and all, with love, peace, and happiness!
bon