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everyone:

thank you everyone for your time and wonderful responses. you all have reminded me that forgiveness and unconditional love are most important. these two things are what frees you from this sort of karmic imbalance. i have read the law of one books but sometimes i forget the message.

rhonda:

i was deeply moved by your eloquent words about your twin brother. it really touched home. i appreciate you sharing your personal experience. i have to confess that this alcoholic man that i was speaking of is not hypothetical but it is my dear friend. he is nearly suicidal at the moment and whatever i say to him does not seem to sink in. this has really shaken me up. i am too already at my capacity for depression at the moment and if i lose him i will be devastated.

my friend has a deep and tender relationship with his wife and she is separating from him now. the ironic thing is that, similar to what you were saying about your twin, that he is the most sensitive, caring, unconditionally loving kind of person that i have ever met but his wife doesn't seem to see it. she sees him being selfish and cowardly and trampling on her emotions. both of them grew up in severely dysfunctional families in which the parents were alcoholic and abusive. she can't see why her husband would repeat this pattern and is now completely withholding any compassion, understanding and most importantly she has withdrawn her love.

one small side not i would like to add is that one old saying has always stuck with me which is that, and don't quote me on this because i can't remember exactly how it goes, you can measure a man's greatness by how much suffering he can endure. if this is true we should all be master ninjas of greatness.

in his own guilt, shame, he lost his own self worth, his pride (ego), his trust of himself, and could not even see beyond an hour. he could not love himself. he lost his ability to trust, have faith and believe. nothing was natural, his own spark of light was out, he could not even think about loving another. his life became "conditional" and dependant on everything and he lost the only thing he has control of, is himself.

this was the hardest lesson for all involved. i am happy to say, much has changed. my brother is back on his feet., i truly truly, love him, unconditionally and see him for who he truly is, that divine spark of love and of god. this part of what you said really struck home the most and i really appreciate your time and your energy for writing it. it really struck home.