really wonderful replies, thank you both. ewhaz, i'll have to watch that film properly, thank you for filling me in on what happened; it's very meaningful. i too look forward to the day when we can communicate without words. markm, that is beautiful~ where is it from? just now, singing a little to myself in the kitchen, i thought of the words the doors of perception. maybe it's all in the doors of perception!!! (not the album, but our "doors" of perception!) love.