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...it bothers me so much because all along i’ve been seeing that the outer world is only reflecting back to me the “inner me.”
... these bothersome opportunities can be great times for introspecting, to stretch oneself to see reflections within others. the discomfort can seem like a yogic stretch which in one direction can be a stress, or in another offer the opportunity to soften in ways that allow greater degrees of acceptance - as if an opportunity to integrate something that may have been fragmented.

at some point people can actually seek out those who help make them feel uncomfortable, for such opportunities to observe their own triggers in effort to reprogram them. to be with the stretch one can become flexible. in this way there can seem a sense of gratitude which may accelerate the process.

the trade off seems a sense of ego may be pummelled into a sort of submission, into a sort of selfless humility. it may be that the new found flexibility gained allows one to act faster and be less susceptible to injury, it may allow one to do things they may not be able to do otherwise because there's simply less there (within) getting in the way of what's important.