[diegogo]

Here's a good analogy taken from the material world. I got a new computer monitor some years back and it was significantly better quality than the old one. When I looked at my online photo gallery and some of my websites, I was rather horrified. A lot of the photos were badly over-sharpened, some had jpg compression damage. With the improved screen resolution, I also saw that some of the websites didn't display correctly, and some of the inline graphics had compression damage or very visible aliasing or similar.

Naturally, I fixed all of it, once I could see it, and it took quite some time to do it. And the bigger, better quality monitor was a big improvement, of course, though it took some time to get used to that, as well (especially the change in screen res).

The same applies to this. I now see things I couldn't see before, and, naturally, I have to adjust what I can, and learn to live with the rest, or learn how to avoid seeing more than I particularly want to about a person's life story. I had to learn to do that with my acute empathy, because I kept picking up other people's moods and emotions and sometimes their thoughts, and it was exhausting. Now I know how to tune that stuff out, for the most part. I'm just going to have to learn to tune out in this situation, as well.