Okay, I see your situation a little differently now. I wasn't sure, at the beginning of the thread, how sure you were that a Neg was actually involved. And I did, in my responses, partly address the past, not the present.
The sex "movies" aren't happening anymore, but you're still bothered by this Neg? How is it affecting you? Why do you feel the Neg has a strong foothold?
Do you feel like the Neg is manipulating you through your (I'm conjecturing here) depression that you aren't with the man? When did you first suspect Neg involvement? Why did you suspect it? What did you feel?