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**WapSaibiar** · 01-25-2006, 07:00 AM

I

was going to send this to Mobley in a PM, but decided to air my dirty laundry for all to see.

I wish I had

Mobley's attitude about this. I'm 45 and living at home right now. My younger brother is too. My sister is the

only one who achieved escape velocity from this town, partially because she went against the parents advice when she

accepted a job in Phoenix.

For me, there are are a couple of factors why I live at home. Several years ago, my

dad had a triple bypass. A few years later, my mom had brain surgery to remove a tumor. So I stayed around to help

them. Add to that the "discipline" that I received as a child which made me afraid to take risks and the fact that I

accrued enormous credit card debt trying to buy happiness during my parents' bad health periods. So now, I'm stuck

where I am, trying to get out of debt.

Needless to say, living at home is detrimental to a healthy love life.

Mainly from the self-esteem issues that society brings on, mainly through the media. Guys like me are the brunt of a

lot of jokes in sitcoms. I'm reminded of a conversation from the show, "Men Behaving Badly," starring Rob Schnider

and another guy whose name I forget:

(paraphrased)

I picked my handle at love scent partially in irony as

I live such a dull life. Stymied by the "loser" vibe I feel from living with the parents and "all work and no play"

syndrome. But like someone mentioned in the thread, how can a woman expect to be supported when I can't even

support myself right now. I am also intimidated by the fact that most women my age have been married and divorced

and have a kid or two. And that intimidation gets worse as I age. The realization that I'm suddenly 45, depresses

me. I keep thinking that I've reached my peak socially and professionally and it's all downhill from here.

Again, I think a lot of it comes from television. You see beautiful, happy people living in places they couldn't

afford in reality (see "Friends"). All my life I wanted to be a 60s style swinging bachelor, but I'm more like the

comic book guy from "The Simpsons."

IPB, TV can cut out the parts it doesn't like, and that's all there

is to it. If you never do anything else in this life ... stop worrying about what others think ... ESPECIALLY WOMEN,

if that be your major concern. Regardless of what people say/think, there are women out there that'll take you just

as YOU ARE. That will come, and when it does, you'll have no doubt about it being love. Tis a lonely path, but

I've traveled it, I'm still alive, and I have an outstanding and very intelligent woman. It's not about attitude,

it's about how you feel about you. Everything in life that's not physical, can pretty much be fixed with your

brain. That brain is a powerful tool ... use it!

Taking care of other people's kids is no easy task. I for one,

would help if I could, if I can't, so be it! If someone falls for you and they have 10 kids, believe you me, it

won't matter because that thing call LOVE pulls off miracles!

You can only be who you are, and if it's not

hurting people, accept it. If YOU FEEL, not think, it must be fixed, fix it, but for the love of doodoo ... don't

let other people/women mold your thinking! It's like people putting their happiness in other people's hands ...

GURANTEED DISAPPOINTMENT! Believe you me, you will be fine, and there are thousands, if not millions, that are

dealing with the same mental tag, that they have allowed society/some women to stamp on their foreheads. You moving

out before you're ready will only put in the same STRESSFUL situation that millions are in ... living to work, vice

working and living. You can join so many by hooking up with someone you're not in love with, to get out on your

own, but that just doesn't makes any sense to me ... but, millions do it. So many unhappy faces, but they have

their own place and someone to help them make it. Yuck!!

Keep ya head up, you're much better off than you

think! It's just gonna take you some time to see that ... there will be good days and bad days, but in the end ...

you'll find ... you did what was BEST for YOU.

Luv ya!

Now, Luv yourself!

P.S. And if the

world doesn't like the way you're living ... f#ck'em! It AIN'T none of their business anywayS!!

01-25-2006, 07:00 AM	#7
WapSaibiar Join Date Nov 2005 Posts 370 Senior Member	I was going to send this to Mobley in a PM, but decided to air my dirty laundry for all to see. I wish I had Mobley's attitude about this. I'm 45 and living at home right now. My younger brother is too. My sister is the only one who achieved escape velocity from this town, partially because she went against the parents advice when she accepted a job in Phoenix. For me, there are are a couple of factors why I live at home. Several years ago, my dad had a triple bypass. A few years later, my mom had brain surgery to remove a tumor. So I stayed around to help them. Add to that the "discipline" that I received as a child which made me afraid to take risks and the fact that I accrued enormous credit card debt trying to buy happiness during my parents' bad health periods. So now, I'm stuck where I am, trying to get out of debt. Needless to say, living at home is detrimental to a healthy love life. Mainly from the self-esteem issues that society brings on, mainly through the media. Guys like me are the brunt of a lot of jokes in sitcoms. I'm reminded of a conversation from the show, "Men Behaving Badly," starring Rob Schnider and another guy whose name I forget: (paraphrased) I picked my handle at love scent partially in irony as I live such a dull life. Stymied by the "loser" vibe I feel from living with the parents and "all work and no play" syndrome. But like someone mentioned in the thread, how can a woman expect to be supported when I can't even support myself right now. I am also intimidated by the fact that most women my age have been married and divorced and have a kid or two. And that intimidation gets worse as I age. The realization that I'm suddenly 45, depresses me. I keep thinking that I've reached my peak socially and professionally and it's all downhill from here. Again, I think a lot of it comes from television. You see beautiful, happy people living in places they couldn't afford in reality (see "Friends"). All my life I wanted to be a 60s style swinging bachelor, but I'm more like the comic book guy from "The Simpsons." IPB, TV can cut out the parts it doesn't like, and that's all there is to it. If you never do anything else in this life ... stop worrying about what others think ... ESPECIALLY WOMEN, if that be your major concern. Regardless of what people say/think, there are women out there that'll take you just as YOU ARE. That will come, and when it does, you'll have no doubt about it being love. Tis a lonely path, but I've traveled it, I'm still alive, and I have an outstanding and very intelligent woman. It's not about attitude, it's about how you feel about you. Everything in life that's not physical, can pretty much be fixed with your brain. That brain is a powerful tool ... use it! Taking care of other people's kids is no easy task. I for one, would help if I could, if I can't, so be it! If someone falls for you and they have 10 kids, believe you me, it won't matter because that thing call LOVE pulls off miracles! You can only be who you are, and if it's not hurting people, accept it. If YOU FEEL, not think, it must be fixed, fix it, but for the love of doodoo ... don't let other people/women mold your thinking! It's like people putting their happiness in other people's hands ... GURANTEED DISAPPOINTMENT! Believe you me, you will be fine, and there are thousands, if not millions, that are dealing with the same mental tag, that they have allowed society/some women to stamp on their foreheads. You moving out before you're ready will only put in the same STRESSFUL situation that millions are in ... living to work, vice working and living. You can join so many by hooking up with someone you're not in love with, to get out on your own, but that just doesn't makes any sense to me ... but, millions do it. So many unhappy faces, but they have their own place and someone to help them make it. Yuck!! Keep ya head up, you're much better off than you think! It's just gonna take you some time to see that ... there will be good days and bad days, but in the end ... you'll find ... you did what was BEST for YOU. Luv ya! Now, Luv yourself! P.S. And if the world doesn't like the way you're living ... f#ck'em! It *AIN'T* none of their business anywayS!!
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