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Personally I don't think there is anything wrong with pornography if it is done in moderation, with less being better. I think curiosity about the sexual act is normal in both males and females. Whether it is wise to be a voyeur I can't say, but I doubt the wisdom of it.

On the other hand, I do understand why women are so upset by their husband's addiction to porn. I think it shows that he doesn't value her as the human being that she is in the flesh and blood. And no woman on earth wants to be compared with any other woman in her husband's head, let alone an air-brushed fantasy that she can never live up to. Imagine it the other way around, guys, and see how you would like it if your wife had a pornographic male fantasy in her head. Could you ever live up to that fantasy? And how would that make you feel as a cherished partner? And while he's busy with porn he is obviously neglecting the relationship even more than many men just normally do, and relationship is of utmost important to females. Without that loving relationship and the feeling of being cherished, she is even less willing to be sexually open, which in turns makes him more interested in porn----and so the destructive circle continues.

So you guys out there, if you indulge in some porn, keep it moderate, realize that the "real thing" can be better than any porn if you spent as much time developing it as your fantasy, and for heaven's sake indulge it in private unless you have a woman at hand who is willing to join you in that indulgence.

As for biblical help in that department, I can't think of any except for the promise a husband makes in the marriage ceremony to "cherish" his wife. Ogling other women, in the flesh or on paper, is not cherishing the unique gift that she is to him, especially if he does it constantly and in her presence.

Sorry guys, but that's just a fact of life for most females.