[preptarra]

Hi Rosella - it's good to have you posting. I remember you and your story so well. You should never feel shame -- when we give you advice, it's because we care. And I truly understand the indecisiveness you've experienced. You didn't expect to deal with this mess and it's a hard mess to deal with.

In terms of the anniversary. hmmm. Well...my vote: if you don't want to go, then you don't go. period. Your in-laws do not support your wellness. If you go, it's not as if some magic will happen and you'll suddenly be embraced into the family. They don't have your back - your efforts towards them are futile. So I see NO downside risk in not going. They already dislike you - they'll continue to dislike you whether you go or not. So don't go. Like yourself - do what's best for you. You don't want to go so don't go. There is NO value added for you when you put out energy towards a relationship and see no investment on your return. In fact, there is a downside risk ... you get burnt out.

KitKat