[ådrrraj]

I can relate to the cheater having all the power before they cheat.
That is what happened to me, however Im sure he would say he felt powerless and trapped (situation was bad with money etc)

I hear they come back when you start taking the power back and get on with things...thats the hard part.

When he called the other day asking ME to find out about how to divorce (internationally) I just kind of went along with it like we were still married. I got off the phone and thought, wow...he treats me like we are still married and hes asking me to take care of a bill or something. I think in his head he doesnt understand the reality that he cant have me be complying and live the life hes living after hurting me. And silly me fell for it...I just get in "wife" mode like everythigns normal...

I think it's time for some elton john "the ***** is back" and we'll see what happens.