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I totally agree with you, and I have seen a lot of that as well, especially on certain other forums.

This is my opinion about it: many times, the people involved with a cheater have their own set of issues. This is what is seen with the people who have been cheated on multiple times and continue to stay and act shocked each time it happens again. That the cheater and this type of betrayed person are both this unhealthy and dysfunctional is probably what attracted them to each other to begin with, even on a subconscious level, like two matching puzzle pieces. It's a co-dependent relationship, and we all know how that goes. So, it is not really a surprise to me that these people will go in search of validation for their sick relationship. They want to be told that love will somehow find a way, when more often than not, that is a falsehood.

I am also one of those people who tell it like it is. I probably come across as harsh a lot, but I simply don't think I'm doing someone any favors by kissing their @ss about a behavior they're engaging in that they are hurting themselves with. Another thing that drives me literally up the wall, are the BS's who intentionally or unintentionally shield the WS and the AP from consequences, but that is another topic for another time.

In conclusion - imo people who get cheated on, more often than not, tend to be the kind of people who are known for being way too nice and tolerant. I refuse to enable them further by BS'ing them about the truth of the matter. And yes, if they just want to defend their cheater and tell the rest of us to screw off, well then they can just lie in the bed they're making as far as I'm concerned.