[GlarlraTpople]

I'm still with my cheater, and I don't care who insults him. Seriously, there is nothing to defend here. Being with him is a sign of my own issues, but I'm not so blind as to think that there is any reason to defend his actions or character.

I really hate when I read "Other than this he's/she's such a wonderful person." No, they aren't. They are liars that fooled you, and me obviously. Wonderful people don't cheat. They don't lie to the face of their spouse, even after being caught. They don't think what they did is "no big deal". My husband is remorseful, and I don't care. I know I don't know every scummy thing he did because he won't tell me and I don't have a time machine. I'm sure he isn't telling me so that we won't fight, but too bad. I have every right to know just how much of a lowlife you really are before I decide once and for all to keep you or toss you out.

Sorry for the rant. As you can see, I do NOT understand defending the cheater. The people defending them are in pain because of them. Why defend that?