IMHO, you are still responsible. You are not to blame, but you are still responsible. Keep working on it, you are halfway there!! If not, hey, no worries my friend. It is your life and you can choose to live it however you like. It's no sweat off my nose. Personally, I accept TOTAL repsonsibility for EVERYTHING that happens in my life. Everything. The day I started accepting total responsibility for everything in my life, my life became better and better. Funny thing is, it just keeps getting better! Good Luck!