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I don't know. I really don't.

For the most part, I believe that the saying is accurate. My reasoning is that by the time someone is an adult, character can't be relearned. You can't imbue someone with character when they don't have any. If someone is dishonest, it doesn't matter how much counselling they get, the counselling can't imbue that person with a characterist that s/he doesn't possess. Period.

However..I do think that there are some people who do change. I believe change is possible. I'm sure that all of us have witnessed people who have made significant changes in their lives and their way of living. I have friends who seemed incapable of caring about the suffering of moralized 'others' (e.g. the homeless, etc) suddenly realize that these 'others' are HUMANS deserving of respect, compassion, dignity. So I know that people can change.


Do cheaters change? Well, sometimes I wonder if cheaters are a special subclass of people...maybe, for the most part, they are too narcisistic or selfish or whatever to be capable of change. Seriously - there may be folks that are incapable of change.


There are people on this forum that have decided to reconcile...which tells me that sometimes, change may be possible. Time well tell.

KitKat