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**apatteopipt** · 06-27-2010, 11:03 AM

Skipping to the point, I went out with the first girl, we had an awesome time and both seem to really like each other, and are already planning on going out again next week. The second girl however has been texting me saying she's excited for her date, yet now I'm having second thoughts but don't want to cancel on her and crush her poor little heart (yes that sounded pretty gay but you get my point). What would you guys do here, I need some wise words as I'm at a loss.

If you used a dating website to meet, odds are fairly good the women will also date other people, and expect that you are as well. So go on the date, have fun, ect ect. Maybe you'll get along better with her than the first girl, maybe not. Canceling without even going on a date seems like more of a **** thing to do at this point. She already invested some amount of time talking to you after agreeing and freeing up the time and getting ready for the date. At worst, you have a fun date and that is all. Though, maybe she's crazy and thinks a date set-up via email is the next thing to an engagement ring, and then you're screwed either way.

Telling them you're actively dating another/multiple people is a tricky thing in my experience, on the one hand, it is a bit (extremely) creepy to be told on a first date that he's dating others at the same time. On the other, you shouldn't wait till they find out on their own, cause I'm pretty sure that's how the 'when it rains, it pours, and then I get struck by lightning' saying came about.

06-27-2010, 11:03 AM	#4
apatteopipt Join Date Oct 2005 Posts 392 Senior Member	Skipping to the point, I went out with the first girl, we had an awesome time and both seem to really like each other, and are already planning on going out again next week. The second girl however has been texting me saying she's excited for her date, yet now I'm having second thoughts but don't want to cancel on her and crush her poor little heart (yes that sounded pretty gay but you get my point). What would you guys do here, I need some wise words as I'm at a loss. If you used a dating website to meet, odds are fairly good the women will also date other people, and expect that you are as well. So go on the date, have fun, ect ect. Maybe you'll get along better with her than the first girl, maybe not. Canceling without even going on a date seems like more of a **** thing to do at this point. She already invested some amount of time talking to you after agreeing and freeing up the time and getting ready for the date. At worst, you have a fun date and that is all. Though, maybe she's crazy and thinks a date set-up via email is the next thing to an engagement ring, and then you're screwed either way. Telling them you're actively dating another/multiple people is a tricky thing in my experience, on the one hand, it is a bit (extremely) creepy to be told on a first date that he's dating others at the same time. On the other, you shouldn't wait till they find out on their own, cause I'm pretty sure that's how the 'when it rains, it pours, and then I get struck by lightning' saying came about.
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